Recovering Women Wealth

Sober Women Managing Money & Mental Wealth

  • Twitter
  • Instagram
  • Pinterest
  • Facebook
  • Home
  • FKA Ms. Fiology
  • About Me
    • Testimony
    • Mission Statement
    • Contact Me
  • Operating Procedures
  • Resources
    • Recovery Resources
    • Books I Recommend
      • Recovery & Self Growth Favs
      • Money Favs
      • Christian Favs
      • Non-Fiction Favs
      • Fiction Favs
    • Financial Resources
  • Public Speaking
  • Investment Policy Statement
  • Debt Freedom
  • Series
    • Brain Health
    • Inspiring Women in Recovery Interview Series
    • People are Basically…

This post may contain affiliate links to products I’ve used and recommend. If you click on the link and purchase the product, I am compensated (at no additional cost to you). 

View my full disclosure here.

Were Entirely Ready to Have God Remove All These Defects of Character

August 31, 2020 By Deanna 3 Comments

Photo by Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash

 

In recovery programs, there are typically 12 steps that are worked which result in a level of freedom. In my personal experience, I have found these steps bring me closer to God, sanctification, and my fellow sisters and brothers.

Working the steps is an ongoing process that is never quite done. Just like we will never be perfectly holy on this side of heaven. However, by working steps, we can get healthier, and most importantly closer to the Lord.

Step 6 states that we were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character (emphasis added). Being ready is really the keyword here. Could God actually remove all of our character defects? Sure, He could easily do it but when we look at many biblical examples, that rarely happens.

Having a “thorn in our side” may actually cause us to be wholly reliant on God versus prideful on our own accord.

Step 6 is often described as the step which separates the boys from the men. That is because it’s tough, it takes maturity, and humility that few boys possess.

The 12 Steps

The 12 steps are to be worked in a specific order and each one spills into the next. Pretty much all recovery programs do the same 12 steps. Here are the Celebrate Recovery 12 steps and Biblical Comparisons:

1. We admitted we were powerless over our addictions and compulsive behaviors, that our lives had become unmanageable.

I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature.
For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. Romans 7:18 NIV

2. We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

For it is God who works in you to will and to act according to his good purpose. Philippians 2:13 NIV

3. We made a decision to turn our lives and our wills over to the care of God.

Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God – this is your spiritual act of worship. Romans 12:1 NIV

4. We made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

Let us examine our ways and test them, and let us return to the Lord. Lamentations 3:40 NIV

5. We admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. James 5:16a NIV

6. We were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up. James 4:10 NIV

7. We humbly asked Him to remove all our shortcomings.

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9 NIV

8. We made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.

Do to others as you would have them do to you. Luke 6:31 NIV

9. We made direct amends to such people whenever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift. Matthew 5:23-24 NIV

10. We continue to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.

So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall! 1 Corinthians 10:12

11. We sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, praying only for knowledge of His will for us, and power to carry that out.

Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly. Colossians 3:16a NIV

12. Having had a spiritual experience as the result of these steps, we try to carry this message to others and practice these principles in all our affairs.

Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore them gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. Galatians 6:1 NIV

Order Matters

As I said earlier, each step spills into the next one and therefore the steps are to be worked in a specific order.

In step 4 we make a moral inventory of ourselves. This is a big one where we identify all resentments and past relationships. Then we go onto identify:

  • How we were hurt
  • How it affected our lives
  • What was our part in the situation and/or how did we form unhealthy coping skills
  • Our character defects
  • Additionally, I have my ladies identify the lies they started believing about themselves as a result of the hurt or relationship

The point of step 4 is to really get a better understanding of ourselves and identify the character defects which have been driving the ship for many years.

Step 5 is where we confess it to God, ourselves, and another human. Then there is step 6…

Deeper Dive into Step 6

We were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

The word, “ready” changes the meaning of this step entirely. I’ll argue that it’s biblical.

God will chisel us to be more and more like His son, Jesus Christ if we allow Him. If anyone knows anything about chiseling they know it’s a painful process. However, as in the example of Paul in the bible, God may allow for there to be some remnant left behind to remind us of our imperfection. This is what Paul describes as the thorn in his side.

We are never told what Paul’s thorn is. Perhaps it’s a physical ailment? Or maybe it’s a temptation that he struggles with? Perhaps it’s an unfulfilled desire? Or what if it’s a character defect that comes up from time to time. Whatever it is God doesn’t remove it from Paul even when Paul pleads three times with the Lord.

The Promise

Instead, God’s response to Paul is, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”

Wow, can we handle that? We might not be rid of all of these character defects that we’ve come know as weaknesses. Furthermore, we had to work through layers of pride to even get to the point of being willing to be ready to have God remove them, and yet, He might not.

I think we can handle it if and only if we can fully surrender to Christ and humbly admit our weaknesses day after day. And in that scripture, God makes a promise. He says, “my power is made perfect in weakness.”

I’m clinging to that promise and will pray that over and over again to my Savior.

How Do We Respond?

Paul goes onto write, “therefore, I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

To me this is the heart of recovery and why we come together week after week, meeting after meeting – to admit our weaknesses. For when we are weak, we are strong. These things we struggle with lose power as we tell on ourselves, make amends, surrender to God, and pray.

One of my favorite scriptures is from Revelation 12:11a, “And they overcame him by the blood of the lamb and the word of their testimony.” Who is him in this context? It is Satan and it’s very clear how he is defeated. Firstly, by the perfect sacrifice of Jesus dying for us (the blood of the lamb). Secondly, by sharing our testimony!

Yes, don’t you know that every time you share your testimony you get a little more freedom. This is what we are called to do.

Closing Thoughts

Step 6 is about working through our pride to become willing and ready to allow God to remove all these defects. However, He might not and will tell us His grace is sufficient for us, for His power is made perfect in weakness.

Though, He doesn’t leave us hanging. The key is that we have to be ready to surrender it all to him. And that surrender, my friends, might be the hardest and most fulfilling step you’ll ever take.

Happy trudging!

Photo by Slava on Unsplash

Filed Under: Stories of Recovery Tagged With: Character defects, Step 6, Surrender, Willingness

Comments

  1. Stephan Parnell says

    October 25, 2020 at 9:52 pm

    This helped more than you know.

    Reply
    • Deanna says

      October 25, 2020 at 11:29 pm

      Stephen, thank you for letting me know. That is exactly the kind of encouragement I needed to keep writing. Blessings to you

      Reply

Trackbacks

  1. Humbly asked Him to Remove our Shortcomings - Recovering Women Wealth says:
    September 14, 2020 at 6:34 am

    […] wrote a blog post about step 6 which states, “we were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of […]

    Reply

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

About Me

My name is Deanna and I am happy to be on this redemptive path. I got sober from drug addiction/alcoholism in 2010 and returned to a faith in Christ. Additionally, I finished digging my way out of debt in 2017. Today, I’m learning to be a wise steward/investor of my resources while helping other women find their victories too. More about me.

Join my email list!

Subscribe to be notified of my latest posts via email.

Please wait...

Thank you for signing up!

Affiliate Link – Click Image

Affiliate Link – Click Image

As Featured On

Recent Posts

  • Seasons Change: Not Goodbye, but a New Beginning
  • A Tastefully Frugal Dream Wedding
  • What Does it Take to Make a Huge Change?

Categories

  • Blogging
  • Career Hacking
  • Financial Independence
  • Frugality
  • Healthy Living
  • Inspiration
  • Investing
  • Minimalism
  • Personal Finance
  • Stories of Recovery
  • Tax Efficiency
  • Travel Hacking
  • Tribute

Archives

  • May 2022
  • June 2021
  • March 2021
  • January 2021
  • December 2020
  • November 2020
  • October 2020
  • September 2020
  • August 2020
  • July 2020
  • June 2020
  • May 2020
  • April 2020
  • March 2020
  • February 2020
  • January 2020
  • December 2019
  • November 2019
  • October 2019
  • September 2019
  • August 2019
  • July 2019
  • June 2019
  • May 2019
  • April 2019
  • March 2019
  • February 2019
  • January 2019
  • December 2018
  • November 2018
  • October 2018
  • September 2018
  • August 2018
  • July 2018
  • June 2018
  • May 2018
  • April 2018

Copyright © 2022 Recovering Women Wealth