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Developing Resilience for Mental Wealth & Money Management, part 2

October 19, 2020 By Deanna 5 Comments

Last week, I wrote part 1 of this post which had to do more with the money side of things. In learning to have mental wealth as well as managing money well, an emergency fund is a solid foundation.

I described how to calculate a monthly emergency amount which enables you to use any number of months as the multiplier. Creating a hedge against any number of life’s emergencies is a way of playing offense rather than defense.

It also will allow you to have more resiliency to bounce back from any potential setback.

However, the second part of developing resiliency is the mental aspect.

Developing Resilience for Mental Wealth & Money Management, part 1

October 12, 2020 By Deanna 3 Comments

Resilience can take you far in life and it’s what most athletes train for. Whether or not you think you are an athlete, I’m here to tell you, you are an athlete in the game of life. I recommend we all grow our resilience muscles.

Let’s start with defining it:

Resilience

noun

The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.
The ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape; elasticity.

And then let’s look at some synonyms of resilience – flexibility, pliability, suppleness, plasticity, elasticity, springiness.

I’ll go further and state that if we can develop resiliency in the game of life, we’ll be able to recover quickly and bounce back from adversity.

Dating with Faith in Recovery

October 5, 2020 By Deanna 2 Comments

Dating in recovery is a topic that needs to be addressed. After all, relationships can bring the best and worst out of people. We all need relationships to thrive and I’d argue survive. So, learning to have Godly, healthy relationships is a worthy endeavor.

I can almost guarantee the roots behind any addiction stem back to some dysfunctional relationship, trauma, and/or abuse. Relationships are that powerful. When trust is broken, some type of damage is done.

My next statement comes only from personal experience and from years of working with broken women. Until we are able to face our pasts (however painful) and learn to reconcile, heal, forgive the unforgivable, and replace lies with truth, we will not have healthy relationships.

It’s the hard work that no one wants to do. However, as one who has done it, I can say it’s the most worthwhile work I’ve ever done.

I’m in a relationship currently and we are doing it more differently than I’ve ever done. For that reason, I wanted to share what I’ve learned…