Hello Everyone, thanks for hanging with me as I know I’ve been absent from blogging for the last several weeks! Life has been busy between my budding love relationship and my busy work fourth-quarter season.
However, I’m excited to be writing a new article!
Also, here’s a head’s up that I’m switching my weekly publishing day to Saturdays. I somehow think this will help me with my schedule. Additionally, Saturday mornings are a good day to sit back, drink a cup of coffee, and read a blog post. Please give me your feedback if you concur or disagree. 😉
Today, I want to challenge us all in our beliefs about what we can accomplish which starts with setting our goals…
It all Begins in Our Brains
“Whether you think you can, or think you can’t, you’re right.” -Henry Ford
I think most of us have read this quote above. It encompasses all that I want to say in this blog post. What Henry Ford can say in 11 words, I’ll expand to a 1000+ word blog, haha!
If you’ve read my blog previously, you also know that I have a brain health series. That’s because it’s our most fascinating organ.
God has given us free will and that includes dominion over our thoughts. However, the bible has given us clear directives on how to discipline our thinking.
Some Scripture to Chew on…
“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” -Philippians 4:8
“Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered.” -Proverbs 28:26
“‘For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love, and self-discipline.” -2 Timothy 1:7
“Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.” -Proverbs 19:11
“We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” -2 Corinthians 10:5
Great Quotes to Ponder…
“Positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will.” – Zig Ziglar
“Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.” -Rick Warren
“I like thinking big. If you’re going to be thinking anything, you might as well think big.” -Donald Trump
“We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” -Albert Einstein
“You can’t have a better tomorrow if you are thinking about yesterday all the time.” – Charles Kettering
What are your goals?
So I want to challenge you to reflect on your current goals in life. Are you working towards building healthier relationship habits? Are you intent on pouring into your marriage? Perhaps you are just focusing on staying sober one day at a time. Or are you wanting to pay off debt? Maybe you are trying to line up your savings goals with future retirement plans.
Whatever your goals are I encourage you to embark on a little exercise with me.
We are going to determine a.) if our goals are too small and b.) what types of limiting thoughts are preventing us from moving forward.
First and foremost, if you’re new to recovery and you’re are just trying to stay sober one day at a time, that’s goal enough! I give you permission to skip my next exercise and just keep on keeping on. However, if you want to bookmark this post for a future time when you have more capacity to focus on more goals, do that!
I know when I first got sober, many wise women told me to just take it one day at a time and lean on them until I felt stronger. Additionally, my main focus every day was to stay sober, and everything I did fed that one goal.
Now for the rest of let’s talk about stretching ourselves…
How to Stretch our Goals
So firstly, I encourage you to write a list of your big top 10 life goals. If you can’t come up with 10, try 5. Since I’m encouraging you to do this exercise, I’ll start with my list:
- Practice putting other’s needs above mine
- Retire by 60 (but only to go onto more ministry)
- Write a book
- Do prayer assignments all over the world and make it to every continent
- Find ways to teach more
- Grow more gardens and orchards
- Own a home again (with lots of land!)
- Run a ministry house
- Enrich my prayer life
- Give a Ted Talk
Okay, there you have some of my big life goals. Once again, I’m naked before you all.
So as you can see some of my goals are tangible and measurable. Others are a bit more abstract and not so easily measured. Although, they are important to me nonetheless. Additionally, I could find ways to measure them if I wanted. For example, I could record the amount of time I spend in prayer every day and work to spend more quality time with the Lord each day.
Also, some of these goals are really, really big. To write a book when I’ve never written one before sounds HUGE. To do a Ted Talk – um, IDK if I’m qualified but I kinda think I have a thing or two to say, so I’m gonna go for it!! But it scares me so I say include goals that are a bit scary.
Now onto your list. Put the things you dreamt of as a little girl (or boy). Include things that seem so BIG and impossible that you don’t even want to write them down on paper. WRITE THEM. UTTER THE WORDS FROM YOUR MOUTH. Be bold and ask God if He’ll allow you to do such things!
Okay, so we all have them – the thoughts that prevent us from trying or the thoughts that cause us to give up early. I say the best way to overcome something is to acknowledge it, walk through it, and find out how to combat and dismiss it.
Again we are going to create a list. This time I want you to name all the negative thinking in your head that might be holding you back from achieving said goals. In the sport of going first, I’ll list mine here:
- No one wants to hear what I have to say
- I’m not smart enough to teach
- I’ll mess things up
- If I meet other’s needs, who will meet mine
Okay, fortunately, my list is not too long. And that’s the fruit from years of recovery work. Although, as you can read, I still have some limiting beliefs. Granted these lies don’t come up as often as they used to in the past but when they do, I need to disqualify them.
Now that we’ve identified our limiting beliefs let’s think about them and find proof for why they are just not true.
Sidebar: in recovery, when I did a searching and fearless moral inventory and through receiving ministry, I was able to uncover where some of my common lies have come in. Furthermore, I was able to shut those doors. That’s a much bigger topic than this blog post but I wanted to say it because it may be something worthy of future pursuit for you.
So let’s squash one of my lies/limiting beliefs as an example, “I’m not smart enough to teach.” When I was finishing my Master’s degree and getting certified to teach, I had a world of opportunity at my fingertips. However, the enemy was lurking and keeping me from pursuing my purpose. I got caught up in addiction bad enough that I walked away from the dream of teaching. That’s where the lie that I’m not smart enough comes in and even the lie that I’ll mess things up.
To disprove these lies, I’m reminded that I excelled in my studies in graduate school. Although, I think the lies need deeper disproving because one can be smart but still swayed by the tactics of the enemy. I’m going to the source of truth to combat these lies!
“The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we God’s children. Now if we are children, then we are heir – heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ.” -Romans 8:16:17
I’m a daughter of the king!
“Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.” -James 4:7
My continual submission to God allows me to resist the enemy!
“You are my hiding place: you will protect me from trouble and surround me with songs of deliverance.” -Psalm 32:7
If I ask, God will hide me in the shadow of his wings. 🙂
Okay, does that give you an idea of how to do this? I tell you I’m encouraged just from this little exercise myself and am going to combat the other lies after I finish this blog post. Again I believe that I can and have the authority to achieve said goals, Lord willing.
We know that our thoughts are powerful. God has given us dominion over our minds. Furthermore, He has blessed us with the ability to reason and use logic to work to overcome lies and find new solutions.
As with many great things in life, it starts with a list. Identify your goals and then stretch them. Include all the things you want but don’t think you can. Next, let’s decipher why you think you can’t and squelch the lies that have shrouded you in doubt.
Finally, combat the lies with proof of the opposite and for me, I go to my ultimate source of truth which is the word of God both in the bible and in prayer.
Okay, happy listing! Also, please share some feedback on my blog posting schedule switching to Saturday!