Stories of Recovery Archives - Recovering Women Wealth

We Got Engaged During the Year to Forget!!!

January 9, 2021 By Deanna 21 Comments

Okay, so I must give credit where credit is due. My boss had the best line ever when I told him of my engagement in 2020. He said, “I just got the best news of this year to forget!!!”

Yep, 2020 was historical on a macro level and as much as we’d like to forget it and put it behind us, it’s one for the history books and the effects still linger on in 2021. Additionally, for me personally, it’s historical on a much more micro level – I got engaged!!!

We are so excited and I’m thrilled to write a blog post about some good stuff that came out of 2020.

Developing Resilience for Mental Wealth & Money Management, part 2

October 19, 2020 By Deanna 5 Comments

Last week, I wrote part 1 of this post which had to do more with the money side of things. In learning to have mental wealth as well as managing money well, an emergency fund is a solid foundation.

I described how to calculate a monthly emergency amount which enables you to use any number of months as the multiplier. Creating a hedge against any number of life’s emergencies is a way of playing offense rather than defense.

It also will allow you to have more resiliency to bounce back from any potential setback.

However, the second part of developing resiliency is the mental aspect.

Dating with Faith in Recovery

October 5, 2020 By Deanna 2 Comments

Dating in recovery is a topic that needs to be addressed. After all, relationships can bring the best and worst out of people. We all need relationships to thrive and I’d argue survive. So, learning to have Godly, healthy relationships is a worthy endeavor.

I can almost guarantee the roots behind any addiction stem back to some dysfunctional relationship, trauma, and/or abuse. Relationships are that powerful. When trust is broken, some type of damage is done.

My next statement comes only from personal experience and from years of working with broken women. Until we are able to face our pasts (however painful) and learn to reconcile, heal, forgive the unforgivable, and replace lies with truth, we will not have healthy relationships.

It’s the hard work that no one wants to do. However, as one who has done it, I can say it’s the most worthwhile work I’ve ever done.

I’m in a relationship currently and we are doing it more differently than I’ve ever done. For that reason, I wanted to share what I’ve learned…

Making Financial Amends in Recovery

September 21, 2020 By Deanna Leave a Comment

In most 12-step recovery programs, there are amends to be made. This can include financial amends. So if you are at the beginning of your recovery program or if you are not in recovery, you may be saying what the heck is a financial amends?

A Financial amends can include many things like debt pay off, returning stolen goods, and living with more fiscal responsibility. This post is to describe in what constitutes a financial amends.

First and foremost here is step 9:

Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.